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cath
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« on: December 27, 2012, 10:18:21 AM »

has any lady had surgery to repair a hole from the rectum through to the vagina?
Did the operation go well
how long did the op last for
how long before you can have sex ( was it painful)
i had bowel cancer in my rectum removed in march and hasnt had sex since.  Embarrassed Angry Sad  ive been with my husband since i was 17 (now 46) and think sex is a big part of a relationship. 
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« Reply #1 on: December 27, 2012, 10:30:04 AM »

Cath, until someone comes along to answer your question more fully, I've copied the link to one of the BBC publications which has a couple of pages that may help you. (Page 24/25). The best port of call would probably be the helpline - number above - where you would be able to discuss your personal circumstances with one of the nurses.  Good luck with finding a way forward. Here's the link:

http://www.beatingbowelcancer.org/sites/default/files/images/Living%20Well%20V1.0%20Final%20LR.pdf
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« Reply #2 on: December 27, 2012, 10:34:36 AM »

thanka brian, yr a star. BUT the reason i typed this on here is because its quite embarrassing to talk to someone about such a delicate subject, hope i dont offend anyone for being so blunt in my questions xx
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« Reply #3 on: December 27, 2012, 10:40:30 AM »

Please don't ever feel you can't post a genuine question on here. We all learn from the answers that are given!  I really admire you for posting.  How can anyone be offended?  If it wasn't for sex none of us would exist. If you don't pose the right question you won't get the right answer. Although not everyone will be comfortable wearing their heart on their sleeve on this one, I'm certain there will be a number of ladies who will be more than happy to address the first three or maybe four questions. 
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« Reply #4 on: December 27, 2012, 10:51:36 AM »

 Grin Embarrassed Embarrassed Embarrassed  thanks brian, yr link was very helpful xx
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« Reply #5 on: December 27, 2012, 02:38:59 PM »

Hi cath
I think that you should be now to return to a healthy sex life after your repair...... They will likely give you vaginal dilators to use to help repair the area. My pelvic op will remove everything in that area, the first time I saw the surgeon he talked about reconstruction if yours is only a repair then this must have a far better outcome. Tis time he isn't doing a reconstruction I guess because this time he knows I can't be cured...... I am separated so this isn't such an issue, excepti it is, so I can understand how you feel.
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« Reply #6 on: December 27, 2012, 03:44:31 PM »

Hi Cath, I haven't had this operation myself so I'm sorry I can't come up with answers to your questions based on personal experience, but in my work as a physio specialising in women's health I did occasionally see women who had this problem after childbirth - we always referred them on to the Psychosexual councellors who were based in the main hospital  and we worked quite closely with them - (they  all   had a recognisable qualification so that they are properly trained in this field - ours were based in the GU Clinic).
 I think Brian's suggestion to ring the helpline is a very good one as they will be used to these sorts of questions and all the nurses here are lovely. I'm sure they will be able to help.
I do agree with you about sex being a very important part of a relationship like yours -  and this is a great forum for talking about everything,  so please dont feel embarrased one little bit
All the best
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